glorious_spoon: (Default)
The most frustrating thing about looking for a job, especially for someone with my personality and skill set, is the necessity of full-scale dishonesty regarding abilities and personal character.

Just once, I wish I could write a completely honest cover letter:

Over-educated antisocial drunk seeks gainful employment. Lacks interpersonal skills, organizational skills, problem-solving skills, patience, tact, and initiative. Functions best in a constant state of crisis and deals well with being screamed at.

Clearly, I should have skipped college and become a prison guard.

On tinhats

Jan. 8th, 2013 11:44 pm
glorious_spoon: (keys)
It says something about SPN fandom, I think, that my first reaction to seeing the announcement on SuperWiki that Jensen and Danneel are having a baby was to check Fandom Wank to see if the tinhat drama had turned up there yet.

Of course it had.

I'm just...I don't even know if amused is the right word anymore. I'm baffled, and frankly creeped out, by the serious investment these people have in a couple of B-list celebrities that they don't know and will probably never meet. The fetishizing of homosexuality (but only when it involves famous pretty men!), the threats of forcible outing in 'revenge' (for...marrying women and reproducing, apparently), the gross misogyny toward all of the women involved, it's just so incredibly depressing and sad.

The fact that these people think they're WARRIORS FOR EQUALITY is just topping on the cupcake. Especially since, as afaik, most of them are straight women. It's like, seriously, I do not need you guys on my side.
glorious_spoon: (wtf hardison)
What is it with people and insults?

I mean, there are plenty of insults out there that don't have gross implications or links to the historical (or current) oppression of one group or another. It's not like you have to give up using insults for all time. You might just have to crack open a dictionary and, IDK, give two or three seconds of thought to what you say before you actually say it.

But I'm seriously so fucking sick of the argument that being justifiably pissed off gives you the right to say whatever the hell crosses your mind without regard to who might be hurt by it. Being a woman doesn't give me the right to use racial or homophobic slurs, even if I'm justifiably angry about misogynistic behavior. Being a queer woman doesn't give me the right to say that morons should be forcibly sterilized, even if I'm justifiably pissed off about homophobic behavior.

Why? Here's why. Forcible sterilization is an actual thing that has actually happened in this country in living memory. 'Morons' were among the targets of these eugenics programs.

Say 'I wish bigots wouldn't have kids', and I'm right there with you, but that's not the same thing. And maybe it was just poor word choice; so what? It's poor word choice when somebody says, 'Our team got raped in the playoffs.' It's poor word choice when someone says, 'That shirt is so gay.' That doesn't make either of these things okay to say. Words fucking mean things.
glorious_spoon: (holmes)
Ugh. I know I haven't posted since, like, the beginning of time, but I thought I'd pop my head up and let anybody who's still reading this know that I'm not actually dead yet. So: my life recently in bullet form!

  • My old junker car was perilously close to giving up the ghost (as they always seem to do right in the middle of the winter), and I had to get a new one. In the interest of not dumping tons of time and money into another junker that's just going to die a year from now, we bought a new (-ish) car. It's a wonderful vehicle, except for the part where it cost about $200 less than my total annual income.
  • Speaking of total annual income, I just did my taxes and found out that I would owe the federal govt. $500 if it weren't for the academic credits I get for tuition. As it is, I'm breaking even.
  • I sold my old car for less than a thousand dollars. Considering that it had a bent frame, no functioning dash lights, a radiator leak, a rattling muffler, and a hood that had to be opened with a jury-rigged bent clothes-hanger hooked to the release, that's not actually that bad a deal.
  • I started classes, full-time. And I'm applying for another job, which will bring my working hours up to 45 hours/week and my free time down to zero. And still no health insurance or bennies. I haven't had a day off since the last time I called in sick, which was, oh, thirteen months ago. Give or take.
  • I still have not caught up with SPN. I keep meaning to, but it keeps not happening. I have been addicted recently to Leverage, Sherlock Holmes, and 80's Brat Pack movies, but I haven't actually had any time to write. It doesn't look like I'll be getting any anytime soon, either. :/
  • I've pretty much quit drinking. I can't afford the time sink. Although in the interest of having one awful health habit at all times, I'm considering taking up smoking again...

Anyway...I miss you all. I miss fandom. I will be back....
glorious_spoon: (dark street)
So, there are some fucked up behaviors that occur over and over again in slash fandom, largely (though not exclusively) perpetuated by straight cis women. Homophobia, heteronormativity, the objectification of gay/bi men and their relationships for the reading pleasure of people who are not generally themselves gay or bi men. Some of it can be put down to the same bad writing and shallow depiction of human behavior that also plagues het romances, but not all. There is a sizable group of slashers who seem thoroughly happy to write the most exploitative, ill-considered depictions of m/m relationships with nary a second thought.

In which I rant... )
glorious_spoon: (bib)
<formerly ranty post here, has since been deleted>
glorious_spoon: (wtf hardison)
Dear [livejournal.com profile] spnanonhaven nonnies:

Seriously, I have better things to do with my time than troll every single author thread ever posting self-recs.
glorious_spoon: (wtf hardison)
Dear [livejournal.com profile] spnanonhaven nonnies:

Seriously, I have better things to do with my time than troll every single author thread ever posting self-recs.

:(

Jul. 27th, 2010 09:29 am
glorious_spoon: (Default)
I don't think I'm going to like Season 6.

Ranting, and vague spoilers. )

:(

Jul. 27th, 2010 09:29 am
glorious_spoon: (Default)
I don't think I'm going to like Season 6.

Ranting, and vague spoilers. )
glorious_spoon: (Default)
I'm all written out for the time being. I was going to write a rant about this ridiculousness, but you know...I think all that really needs to be said is that (a) instruments are meant to be played, (b) music is an evolving thing, (c) John Lennon was an iconoclast and (d) love her or hate her, so is Lady GaGa. From his reputation, I think Lennon would have been a lot more annoyed about the fans who want music to ossify than about some wild-child pop star playing his piano (in pictures that HIS SON TOOK). The whole thing reminds me of this comic.

Anyway, that's my rant for the week. Have some videos!


Kris Allen, really bored soldiers, and GoCheeksGo. )
glorious_spoon: (Default)
I'm all written out for the time being. I was going to write a rant about this ridiculousness, but you know...I think all that really needs to be said is that (a) instruments are meant to be played, (b) music is an evolving thing, (c) John Lennon was an iconoclast and (d) love her or hate her, so is Lady GaGa. From his reputation, I think Lennon would have been a lot more annoyed about the fans who want music to ossify than about some wild-child pop star playing his piano (in pictures that HIS SON TOOK). The whole thing reminds me of this comic.

Anyway, that's my rant for the week. Have some videos!


Kris Allen, really bored soldiers, and GoCheeksGo. )

My $.02

Jun. 19th, 2010 12:58 pm
glorious_spoon: (wtf hardison)
I'm aware that this has been going on for the better part of two weeks by now, and that everybody who's going to hear about it probably already has. The author in question has been taken pretty thoroughly to task, so I'm not going to go there. I will say that I skimmed the fic and that the criticism has been, in my eyes, entirely apt.

Two things:

1. 'Racist' is not an insult. Really, it's not. Calling someone out on racist behavior (and yeah, it's happened to me and yeah, I get that it sucks to feel like the bad guy) is not the same thing as 'calling them names'. It's saying, 'Hey. You did this thing, and it was racist. It offended people. Maybe you didn't mean it to be offensive, maybe you really didn't know better, maybe you just didn't think it through--whatever. It was still offensive. People were offended, whether you meant them to be or not.' 

Ignorance is not an excuse, and the fact that you may not consciously hold any racist attitudes doesn't mean that you are exempt from the possibility of ever doing something racist.

2. Apologies work better if they are genuine and unqualified. This means you don't get to make excuses for your behavior (unless those excuses include 'somebody held a gun to my head and made me post this'), you just say that you fucked up, and you're sorry. If you can let go of your defensiveness long enough, it's a big fucking step toward alleviating any hurt you've caused. Also, pretending it never happened or that you weren't really wrong or that there's some mitigating circumstance that makes it all okay does not actually help your reputation in fandom. You become that writer not just by writing offensive fic, but by refusing to acknowledge that you really did anything wrong.

That's all I'm going to say on the subject.

My $.02

Jun. 19th, 2010 12:58 pm
glorious_spoon: (wtf hardison)
I'm aware that this has been going on for the better part of two weeks by now, and that everybody who's going to hear about it probably already has. The author in question has been taken pretty thoroughly to task, so I'm not going to go there. I will say that I skimmed the fic and that the criticism has been, in my eyes, entirely apt.

Two things:

1. 'Racist' is not an insult. Really, it's not. Calling someone out on racist behavior (and yeah, it's happened to me and yeah, I get that it sucks to feel like the bad guy) is not the same thing as 'calling them names'. It's saying, 'Hey. You did this thing, and it was racist. It offended people. Maybe you didn't mean it to be offensive, maybe you really didn't know better, maybe you just didn't think it through--whatever. It was still offensive. People were offended, whether you meant them to be or not.' 

Ignorance is not an excuse, and the fact that you may not consciously hold any racist attitudes doesn't mean that you are exempt from the possibility of ever doing something racist.

2. Apologies work better if they are genuine and unqualified. This means you don't get to make excuses for your behavior (unless those excuses include 'somebody held a gun to my head and made me post this'), you just say that you fucked up, and you're sorry. If you can let go of your defensiveness long enough, it's a big fucking step toward alleviating any hurt you've caused. Also, pretending it never happened or that you weren't really wrong or that there's some mitigating circumstance that makes it all okay does not actually help your reputation in fandom. You become that writer not just by writing offensive fic, but by refusing to acknowledge that you really did anything wrong.

That's all I'm going to say on the subject.
glorious_spoon: (j.a.)
Things about the SPN / J2 fandom that bug me lately, in no particular order (ranting about it here because [livejournal.com profile] fanficrants is (a) sick of SPN rants and (b) doesn't allow for my entitlement complex):

1. Shipping wars. Jesus fuck, the shipping wars. It hasn't quite reached the Heron vs. Harmony levels of animosity, but the Wincesters and the Dean/Castiel people are starting to get close.

2. WHY THE HELL DO SO MANY PEOPLE WRITE JARED/HARLEY? WHAT THE FUCKING FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU??

3. Yes, rape, torture, and incest really ought to be warned for. Even in SPN.

4. No, Wincest is not canon. No matter how much you want it to be. Neither is Dean/Castiel. NEITHER OF THESE PAIRINGS IS CANON, OKAY?

5. Yes, Sam really was a bastard in Season 4. He's been doing a lovely job of owning it and trying to make up for it, but he. Was. A. Bastard. 

6. J2 shippers take note: shyness is not a disability. And JA might be somewhat reserved compared to his costar, but he doesn't seem to be cripplingly reticent. Observe.

7. Even people who are painfully shy often do not take well to having their more extroverted friends treat them like they're damaged toddlers. See above re: shyness not being a disability. Shy people are also not necessarily nicer, more naive, or more sensitive. Some of us just hate people.

8. John was neither a violent child molester nor a saint. Dean and Sam are good men, and he had a hand in that, but they're also pretty fucked up. And John had a hand in that, too.

9. Please stop bashing the girlfriends/wives of J2. It's skeevy.

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